Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Just a hard day......

Did you ever have one of those days that just out of nowhere it becomes completely unbearable? I had one of those days today. And unfortunately, it was because of a fairly large fight I had with my husband.

I am happy to say in the almost 4 years that Nathan and I have been married we've had a handful of what I would consider serious fights. Actually, I can only think of 2 off the top of my head. But less than 24 hours ago we had one of "those" fights. Every other time we have been able to resolve the issue within a few hours but last night was different. I went to bed upset, Nathan didn't sleep. We both went to work saying not much to each other.

I didn't know where we stood, and I was so concerned about what had happened and where we stood, that I actually glanced at some apartment websites, thinking I should have some information ready in case I had to move out of our home fairly quickly.

Tonight we talked more and now things are better, but to say that everything is great would be far from the truth. I'm not going to go into what happened, because I don't think it is really fair to Nathan and I know that everyone will have opinions (and frankly I don't want to hear them right now) But I did want to just blog something because well, it makes me feel better. And because I don't feel like anyone should ever be embarrassed when things in a relationship aren't just perfect all the time.

As silly as it may sound to some, I used to be ashamed if Nathan and I would have a fight and someone heard about it. I guess I figured that really happy couples didn't have big fights. I wish I could erase the events of last night, but obviously, I can't. I can only move forward and work towards a good situation remembering that I still love my husband more than anything else in this world.

16 comments:

Mrs. Newlywed Giggles said...

I hope everything works out for you and your husband and just remember to be strong and believe in the vows you both took with each other.

Sending happy faces to you, hope they make you feel a bit better. :)

LC said...

Oh Teresa, I am so sorry that you two got in a fight. However, I completely understand needing to talk about it and get it out in the open. Every couple has fights...even big fights. But what really matters is how you work through them. I am praying that you two can figure that out soon so you both feel better. (((Hugs)))

Julia said...

Everyone has fights, even those seemingly perfect couples. But just remember, it's the making up that counts:) Hang in there, talk it out some more if needed, and remember to breathe.

PQ said...

i can't say anything new. hang in there. this was the first of many in your life together. hopefully it will just strengthen your bond.

:::BIG HUGS::

Karen - Lucky Me said...

I hope you have some better days ahead!

Kristal said...

Sorry T. :( I hope the next few days get better.

Kristen said...

good luck with your husband, remember that everyone fights, it's a way of communication.... the people who never fight are just holding emotions in, that or they don't feel very passionate about things.

Amy said...

Im sorry, hope things get better!!!!

Jenn said...

Sorry I'm just now seeing this. Things WILL get better :) If you need anything, you know where to find me!

Jen said...

HUGS.

There's nothing I can say that hasn't already been said. The big fights really suck, and can take a lot out of you. I'm here if you need anything. And yes, it totally helps to write about it sometimes.

Maria said...

Like others have said, everyone has fights with their spouse. We have had a couple of big ones (mainly because both of us are stubborn). In our case, we usually try to resolve our fights with a compromise of some sort. Sometimes it's the same day of the fight, other times it takes a day or two to get things resolved. Fights suck, but they can also be great learning experiences (once things calm down).

I hope everything gets better soon (sounds like you guys are off to a good start).

Lisa said...

I'm so sorry, Teresa. I don't have much in the way of advice because we all work through these things in our own way. But, thinking of you... ((HUGS))

Mary said...

Can't say more than what's already been said. Everyone has been there and it's the worst. At least you guys are on the road to reconciliation. Good luck.

Trisha said...

I'm sorry to hear that you're sad! :( You're always smiling.

I just want to let you know that you shouldn't be ashamed of this! And, that if you need someone to talk (that you don't always see and someone who definitely will NOT judge you), I'm here to listen! :)

I hope things are getting better! :)

Angie said...

I completely understand, I just had a disagreement with my hubs too over money. It's tough, but it's nothing we can't work through. Hopefully you guys will work it out. Good luck girl.

Sarah said...

I can only echo what everyone else has already said. I know (and hate) that feeling of fighting and part of myself being afraid that we won't recover. Luckily for me, DH and I have always made it, and I will be sending positive thoughts for the same for you.